There is an old cliché that says, ‘your attitude determines your altitude’. In other words, when you work at making sure you maintain a positive, giving and pro-active attitude it helps determine how high and how far you will go in life. I would like to add that your attitude also determines whether you finish well in life or not.
Circumstances and other people’s actions are often not within your control. However, your attitude is totally within your control. Although certain people and circumstances may ‘trigger’ you, ultimately, no-one else but you can determine your attitude.
To maintain a positive, giving and proactive attitude in life:
- Is challenging and requires continual vigilance
- Will involve some tough decisions e.g. may mean cutting some people (or at least their voices) out of your life.
- Will mean continually wrestling yourself to ensure you never develop a ‘victim’ or a ‘poor me’ mindset.
- You need to find a way to process regrets and deal with failure. Everyone has things they regret. Ruminating on regret is self-defeating.
- Will mean you learn to forgive rather than hold onto offences and become bitter. E.g. I choose to believe that everyone who deals with me is doing the best they can, even if they let me down or do things that hurt me. It is my forgiveness frame.
Attitude is more important to a successful and fulfilled life than skills or ability or experience.
There is an old cliché that says, ‘your attitude determines your altitude’. In other words, when you work at making sure you maintain a positive, giving and pro-active attitude it helps determine how high and how far you will go in life. I would like to add that your attitude also determines whether you finish well in life or not.
Circumstances and other people’s actions are often not within your control. However, your attitude is totally within your control. Although certain people and circumstances may ‘trigger’ you, ultimately, no-one else but you can determine your attitude.
To maintain a positive, giving and proactive attitude in life:
- Is challenging and requires continual vigilance
- Will involve some tough decisions e.g. may mean cutting some people (or at least their voices) out of your life.
- Will mean continually wrestling yourself to ensure you never develop a ‘victim’ or a ‘poor me’ mindset.
- You need to find a way to process regrets and deal with failure. Everyone has things they regret. Ruminating on regret is self-defeating.
- Will mean you learn to forgive rather than hold onto offences and become bitter. E.g. I choose to believe that everyone who deals with me is doing the best they can, even if they let me down or do things that hurt me. It is my forgiveness frame.
Attitude is more important to a successful and fulfilled life than skills or ability or experience.